three years

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today is mine and Adam’s third wedding anniversary.
three years ago today, we knelt across the alter and promised to love & cherish one another for time and all eternity.

we have been through a lot in the last three years, good & bad.
i would be completely lying if i said these last 3 years have been nothing but bliss.
like most people who are married know, marriage takes hard work!

i once learned this phrase in one of my classes:
intimacy breeds conflict.

those of you who swear you have a perfect marriage, you may not understand that phrase.
but for the rest of us [which i’m pretty sure is a larger number than the former], you are probably nodding your head in agreement.

the more you get closer to someone, the more you know about them.
the more you know about them, the more you start to pick up on little things (personality traits even) that can bother you.
the more these things bother you, the more likely disagreements can come up.
and so on.

when i heard this phrase, it honestly gave me hope in my relationship.
hope that’s there’s nothing wrong with me, or with Adam, or our marriage.
hope that we are actually normal.

yes, we have arguments and yes, feelings get hurt.
but that doesn’t mean i love Adam less. 
we try to solve our problems with lots of love & patience.
{well if i’m really being honest, Adam is the patient one}
and when we do, we have grown to love each other more.
and honestly the fact that we WANT to work out our disagreements truly shows how much we really love each other when it can be so easy to give up.

this idea that disagreements bring couples closer together as they resolve them correctly, has been proven time and time again in research. and i truly believe that our disagreements have brought us much more closer together because we able to open up emotional barriers, talk things through, and understand one another better.
and making up is always so fun to do!

no, these last three years hasn’t been free of trials and unhappiness.
and i know our relationship isn’t perfect {because who’s is?}
but because we have made a continual effort to show love, support, and compassion toward one another, there are days where my life really does feel perfect.

these last three years have truly been the happiest in my life.
i cannot imagine going through the things i have gone through with anyone else but Adam.
he knows me better than anyone, better than myself!
and there is no one else i would rather work on life’s difficulties with than him.

i love you, Adam!!
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

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26 comments:

Courtney B said...

Oh my gosh.... you two are the CUTEST! Love these pictures! And I really love this post. AMEN to all of it!!
Happy Anniversary!!

eryka {from abcde} said...

I love this post. Marriage takes alot of work but, its so worth it!!! Happy Anniversary!!!!
Xo

J @ IHeart-Motherhood said...

So sweet! Congrats on your Anniversary!

The Zoo said...

Congratulations! I appreciate your honesty. Here's to eternity.

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Natalie said...

Happy anniversary!

THE COOK'S said...

Happy Anniversary!! Cheers to many many more. :)

Alexis Kaye said...

YAYYYY!!! Your wedding pictures are darling, btw! but yeah...I totally agree. I especially like when you said that there are days that feel perfect. There are days when I have butterflies when I see my husband and I am just so excited and happy and I love it! And there are other days he just straight up bugs me! hahah! But that's okay :) We work through it all!

Alyssa said...

Such great pictures! I love the Cinderella one!!

Brittany TYD said...

Thank you so much for your honesty. There are so many people who say how wonderful and perfect their marriage is that it made me nervous when my boyfriend and I would bicker. Honesty like this has really made all of the effort. Because you're totally right the closeness and knowing we each think it's worth it, makes us so much closer.

Autumn said...

So so so cute :) What this post tells me is y'all got married basically...right after finals haha. We did the same thing.

I totally agree with the intimacy breeds conflict thing.

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

simply perfect. really.

Ashley said...

Happy Anniversary, girl!!

Danny Heyen said...

Cute! Where is that Cinderella mural?

Jenn @ PSP said...

Aw happy anniversary! I was one of many nodding my head at your statement. I was just sharing with a friend yesterday about how my hubby and I are learning how to fight fair from past times when fights have been bad, so that when we fight (which happens, just a fact of life!), it won't be as bad as that one time when... ; ) Also your wedding pictures are gorgeous!

Kristina said...

Happy Anniversary!! Here's to many mamy more!! You are right, marriage is such hard work, but its so worth it! Hope you two have a lovely day!
xo,
Kristina

Sarah B. said...

Happy Anniversary! Here's to many more years of loving and growing together ;)

Alisha said...

Whar a sweet post, Megan! No one is perfect, and no marriage is perfect. This truly shows the love that you and Adam share!

Happy anniversary, sweet friend!
xo
Alisha

Kassi @ Truly Lovely said...

Happy Anniversary!! We haven't quite made it to our one year anniversary yet... But we have been together for over six years. And I can honestly say that all relationships are work! Hope you did something fun together yesterday!

Cassie @ Live.Laugh.L0ve. said...

Happy Anniversary!!

Alyssa said...

Happy Anniversary!! I LOVE that Cinderella mural!!! Oh my gosh, I have a not so secret obsession with Cinderella... where is that located?!

Kylie said...

Happy anniversary!! And you are so right about all of that with marriage :)

Stacey said...

Happy Anniversary!! Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom. My husband and I will have been married for 3 years this July too :) Wishing you many more happy years together!

Mel said...

Happy Anniversary! :) love your honesty and you two are SO cute :)

Me said...

I love the photo of you guys in front of the Cinderella mural! Happy Anniversary!

Lindsey Leitner said...

Such a sweet post! I am totally with you about nit picking and more fights! my husband and I have been together 3 years going on 2 years of marriage and we fight too and just like Adam, Scott is the patient one!

Camille Griffiths said...

Happy Anniversary!! And happy graduation to your husband! :)