Diary of a Submissive

for the BlogHer Book Club this month we read Sophie Morgan's book "Diary of a Submissive." 
following right behind the "50 Shades of Grey" books (which i have never read), this book is Sophie's true account of what it's like to be a "submissive" in her sex life. 

i found it so disturbing.
so so disturbing.
it took a lot for me to even finish it. i just couldn't handle it.
and i honestly can't even think of any themes or lessons from it... i'm just scarred.

now, i don't think myself a prude by any means.
but this book is so detailed, so dark, so insane that it just pushed my comfort levels way too much.
{i really should've read the description better.... i honestly didn't think it would get pushed as far as it did.}

i understand that people have their different turn-ons and whatnot
and that everyone is wired differently,
but this is just so above and beyond that i just don’t get how this can be even remotely sexy.

and even though i have never read “50 Shades of Grey” {nor plan to}, it makes me wonder how in the world so many women love that book if it’s even remotely similar to this memoir.
[please tell me it’s not anything like this book so i can renew my faith in humanity.]

but to each their own i guess…
and this is just really not my taste.

for some though, this is how they roll and i guess i can’t argue with that.
so maybe you are one of those people and this book is for you.

but if you are maybe a little more sensitive like i am,
and don’t like reading about a woman getting beaten to the point where they almost black out and are silently sobbing with no hope for the pain to stop [all part of the sexual experience]… then this book is definitely NOT for you. 

This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed are my own.


Tabitha said...

I started reading 50 Shades of Grey the other night and so far it's really good but it's just now getting into the dominate submissive part so we'll see how it goes. I feel the same way you do and probably wouldn't be able to handle Diary of a Submissive, and we'll see if I can even finish the 50 Shades one!

amanda said...

I have not read this book (and from your review I don't want to!!) but I have read the Fifty Shades series and loved it! Similar to you, I wouldn't call myself a prude but definitely don't seek out pain, but I think these books are written for normal women. It's mostly about a normal woman getting involved with a man who has very dark preferences and (little spoiler!) how he works to move past his obsessions and early childhood abuse because of his love. It also address the woman's stuggle to deal with this kinky stuff that she's not familiar or comfortable with. While not for everyone, I would definitely reccommend giving these books a shot. They aren't literary masterpieces but are enjoyable and not evil and pro-abuse like I have heard some people refer to them.

Elisabeth @ La Vita e Bella said...

oh gosh - yeah. definitely not reading it. gives me the shivers just thinking about it.

GingerPeachT said...

I'm so sorry you had to read it lol
And yes, I think the whole shades of grey is horrible. Christian women were in love with it, and frankly I think it's not good for women to idolize such things.

Liv said...

I'm so glad I passed on this book. I read a disturbing book for the book club last year and it was SO HARD to get through it and then try to forget it!


Chelsea Lennox said...

that sounds just too much. I wasn't bothered much by 50 shades of grey, I thought it was alright and read all three even though it's pretty badly written. definitely won't be reading this one though! thanks for the heads up.

Marie said...

i am so sorry, my friend! i am definitely not going to read this! it is so sad how something like sex, that is beautiful and perfectly created by God, can be so warped and twisted and horrible when mishandled by the world. ewww.