before i met Adam, i was pretty gung-ho about making a name for myself in the world.
i was going to get my degree, have an awesome career, and after i’ve established myself, i would have a cute little family while still being super awesome.
i was going to do it.
this was my big dream.
then i started dating Adam. i told him all about how i was going to work and be successful even after children. at the time i was a communications major with an emphasis in journalism. i had plans to become a big-time writer for a high-end fashion magazine.
& be a mom on the side.
the problem was, Adam didn’t like my idea of what success means. he didn’t like the idea of being a mother as an afterthought. he wanted me to stay home.
i thought he was being chauvinistic.
it honestly became a make it or break it situation in our relationship. he didn’t want someone who didn’t seem to understand the importance of raising children and i didn’t want someone who would degrade me to the bottom-tier position of a stay-at-home-mom.
then, for some reason or another, my heart started to soften toward the idea of motherhood and family life. i started becoming so fascinated by family studies and the work of women in the home.
the funny thing is, nothing went according to my original plan.
i didn’t end up majoring in communications
i got married while still in college
i had a baby before i graduated
i am now considered a stay-at-home mother
& i’m pretty sure there is no successful writing career in sight.
[in fact, i’m pretty sure with my major that would be rare anyways]
& i wouldn’t trade it for the world!
i started to see how incredibly important mothers are and the vital role they play in their children’s lives. i started to see that it wasn’t men vs. women, win or lose, anymore.
it was a partnership. with each of us having different roles to play.
The most important work we will ever do is within the walls of our own Home.
-Harold B. Lee
this last weekend, i had the opportunity to go to the Strengthening Family Symposium.
one of the speakers was Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, founder of the Ruth Institute. her speech was UH-MA-ZING! seriously.
she talked about how how the world would have women think that they are not successful unless they have a degree and/or a great career.
motherhood is weak.
climbing the career ladder is where your true strength lies.
however, these are all big fat lies!
though of course women can be great career women and have amazing jobs, that doesn’t lessen the value of motherhood.
Of all the rights of women,
the greatest is to be a mother.
and only women can do the work of a mother.”
we are needed.
we are important.
we are of worth.
Of God, at price no man may dare
To lessen or misunderstand.
~Helen Hunt Jackson