couples who work together…

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i would never pretend like Adam and i have a perfect relationship.
in fact, if i was truly brave enough, i would even say that the first year {or almost two} of our marriage was really hard.
we had A LOT of learning to do, A LOT of adjusting, and A LOT of compromises.
it was really tough.
{it still can be tough. just like any marriage! we will always be two completely different people}

but we have always ALWAYS known that we love each other more than anything.
and we love our little family that we have grown together with all of our hearts.

as we have gone through the many ups and downs of life together, one of the most important things we’ve learned is that couples who work {hard} together, stay together.

we have worked hard on our differences
we have worked hard to learn together to become better parents
we have worked hard to build a life for ourselves [and are still working at it]
we have worked hard to make our house a home
we have worked hard to have the Spirit in our home & relationship
we have worked hard on everything together!

even though this last year and transition in our life has probably been our hardest challenge so far,
{though i also know we have A LONG ways to go so things can get harder}
i have seen a huge difference in our marriage.

especially these last few months as we have packed up our little life in Provo and left to start a new life in Arizona, i feel closer to Adam than i have felt since we got married.
with all the changes, a lot of times it felt like all we had was each other 
and we really had to learn to fully rely on one another.

there have been times where i have gotten overwhelmed,
hurt,
angry,
disappointed,
sad,
mad…
times where i have wanted to throw in the towel.

but being here with Adam during this difficult time {and coming through other difficulties} has just reaffirmed to me that i made the right decision 3.5 years ago.
there is absolutely no one else i could ever imagine going through this life with, going through these challenges with.

i’m grateful that we had this time together, just by ourselves, that we can grow even closer together.
we have learned so much more about each other in this short period of time
and i really felt like it has prepared us for what this coming year throws at us.
[which is already proving to be incredibly… difficult]

11 comments:

Brittany LeSueur said...

I am so glad we aren't the only ones!!! Love would not be so rewarding if it wasn't so much work!!!

A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

Hey dear, I would love for you to share this with us at Matrimonial Monday :)

A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

Hey dear, I would love for you to share this with us at Matrimonial Monday :)

Jessica Peters said...

I agree with the first comment. It wouldn't be so rewarding if it wasn't so hard. I'm not married but I can relate. The past year I have lived with my boyfriend has been hard. But I still love him as much as I did then. If not much more!

Stacey said...

Love your honesty in this post! And I totally agree with you. Blessings to you!

Christi Lynn said...

this is so great! i love hearing stories like this.

angiedunn said...

my experience has been very similar. i used to feel bad that things weren't picture perfect all of the time. now i can say, 100% confidently, that i'm so grateful for the difficult challenges marriage has brought us because we are stronger, better people [individually and together] because of them. i've learned that marriage is sanctified through the hard stuff - the hard decisions & the hard work.♥

April said...

Up, I think one of the biggest things you rarely hear about it that being in love doesn't make everything easy. If things get hard, it doesn't mean "oh, I guess this can't be true love, never mind!" of course it takes work!! And practice! And sometimes it takes rehashing the same issues over and over and over... But that's how people stay married. Forever.

Kassi Mortensen said...

Reaffirming your love for your partner is one of those things that has to happen now and again. Otherwise it would just be boring!! It is funny how you learn the most about one another when you are forced to rely on only each other and nobody else. It's that whole 'two become one' thing. :)

Alexis Kaye said...

This is sweet :) In some ways I think it means way more to struggle together and stay together than it would to have the "perfect relationship" that really only exists in fairy tales. Also, you guys look awesome together ;)

GirlRural.com said...

I know a lot of folks will say that the first years are the easiest but it's not true. The first years are the adjustment period before you are rocking and rolling along. Those first years, the fights and long talks and all give you the foundation for the years ahead and the challenges you'll face together. I think it only gets better and sweeter!