humility in marriage

this weekend Adam is taking his dental boards, it's his birthday, and then it's Father's Day. 

so this weekend is pretty much all about Adam :) 

i wanted to take the next few posts to talk about why i love Adam & celebrate his amazingness.

pre-Elijah. we look so young and rested....

i always say i didn't truly understand how great a guy Adam is until i married him. while dating, i got glimpses of how incredible Adam is (which is why i wanted to marry him) but i didn't realize at the time what that would mean for our marriage. 

i know Adam is my better half. he calms me down, he motivates me, and he helps me rise to my own potential. and {one of the most important} he knows how to fight a good fight. 

[or in other words, put up with my immature fighting style.] 

whenever i start getting upset and stubborn and mean and petty and just downright immature, Adam is the one that stays calm and keeps pushing me to talk through my frustrations instead of bottling it all up. he talks to me and listens to me. and through it all he stays humble enough to understand and appreciate my feelings, no matter how ridiculous they may seem. 

(and i really am working on being better. but you know, when you're one way for so long it's hard to do sometimes....)

on my {long} list of reasons i loved Adam i wrote before we got married [seriously, i did.], i wrote down humble twice. i think it was originally cause i forgot i had already written it but i thought so highly of his compassion and humility that i couldn't help but have it on my mind often. 

as we go into our 4th year of marriage, Adam has taught me how important it is to be humble in a relationship. quick to apologize, willing to talk through problems, quick to forgive the other for their shortcomings, and easily shows love amidst it all. 

Adam honestly has lots of reasons and opportunities to not be the bigger person, to get frustrated and give up. and i'm sure lots of times he feels like that with all that he has going on in his life (school, work, taking care of a family, budget stresses, etc.). but he never does. he never does. 

i'm so grateful for him and his amazing example of kindness and humility. i'm grateful for his willingness to work with me on any and all major & minor issues. and i hope i can eventually be as good to him as he is to me. :)